I told the Professor once that I was thinking of joining some sort of support group, like AA, but for sex addicts.

“I considered that too,” he said. “But then I realised I was just looking for a way to find more people to have sex with.”

That was my main motivation too, of course. Which probably explains why there’s no such thing. But just recently I started wondering about it again and found this online sex addiction test. Here’s my score:
And here are the questions:

  1. Please indicate gender: Female
  2. I have no concerns about my sexual behavior but am curious how I would score. Yes
  3. Indicate orientation: Bisexual
  4. I have no concerns about my sexual behavior but others are concerned. Yes
  5. I am having problems with my sexual behavior but do not consider myself a “sex addict”. No
  6. I know I am a sex addict. Yes
  7. I have sought therapy because of my sexual problems. Yes
  8. ‎Were you sexually abused as a child or adolescent? Surprisingly (because I think some of my behaviour suggests otherwise), no
  9. Did your parents have trouble with sexual behavior? No
  10. Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts? Yes
  11. Do you feel that your sexual behavior is not normal? Yes – I don’t see why it isn’t, but it doesn’t seem to be
  12. Do you ever feel bad about your sexual behavior? No
  13. Has your sexual behavior ever created problems for you and your family? Yes
  14. Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you did not like? Yes
  15. Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior? Yes
  16. Are any of your sexual activities against the law? Yes, if having sex in bathrooms and cinemas is against the law
  17. Have you made efforts to quit a type of sexual activity and failed? Yes
  18. Do you hide some of your sexual behaviors from others? Yes
  19. Have you attempted to stop some parts of your sexual activity? Yes
  20. Have you felt degraded by your sexual behaviors? Yes, but only in a good way ;)
  21. When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards? Sometimes, but this wasn’t an option, so I said no
  22. Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire? Yes
  23. Have important parts of your life (such as job, family, friends, leisure activities) been neglected because you were spending too much time on sex? Yes
  24. Do you ever think your sexual desire is stronger than you are? No (this seems to be a contradiction to the earlier question about whether I feel controlled by my sexual desire, but I actually don’t think it is stronger than me, so maybe the truth is that I’m just allowing it to control me)
  25. Is sex almost all you think about? Yes
  26. Has sex (or romantic fantasies) been a way for you to escape your problems? Yes
  27. Has sex become the most important thing in your life? Yes (the most important good thing, anyway)
  28. Are you in crisis over sexual matters? Sort of, so I said yes
  29. Has the Internet created sexual problems for you? Yes… but mainly solutions!
  30. Do you spend too much time online for sexual purposes? Yes
  31. Have you purchased services online for erotic purposes (sites for dating, pornography, fantasy and friend finder)? Yes
  32. Have you used the Internet to make romantic or erotic connections with people online? Yes – in my opinion by far the BEST use of the Internet
  33. Have people in your life been upset about your sexual activities online? Yes
  34. Have you attempted to stop your online sexual behaviors? Yes
  35. Have you subscribed to or regularly purchased or rented sexually explicit materials (magazines, videos, books or online pornography)? Yes
  36. Have you been sexual with minors? No
  37. Have you spent considerable time and money on strip clubs, adult bookstores and movie houses? No
  38. Have you engaged prostitutes and escorts to satisfy your sexual needs? No
  39. Have you spent considerable time surfing pornography online? Yes
  40. Have you used magazines, videos or online pornography even when there was considerable risk of being caught by family members who would be upset by your behavior? Yes
  41. Have you regularly purchased romantic novels or sexually explicit magazines? No
  42. Have you stayed in romantic relationships after they became emotionally or physically abusive? Yes
  43. Have you traded sex for money or gifts? Yes
  44. Have you maintained multiple romantic or sexual relationships at the same time? Yes
  45. After sexually acting out, do you sometimes refrain from all sex for a significant period? Yes
  46. Have you regularly engaged in sadomasochistic behavior? No
  47. Do you visit sexual bath-houses, sex clubs or adult video/bookstores as part of your regular sexual activity? No
  48. Have you engaged in unsafe or “risky” sex even though you knew it could cause you harm? Yes, but not often
  49. Have you cruised public restrooms, rest areas or parks looking for sex with strangers? No
  50. Do you believe casual or anonymous sex has kept you from having more long-term intimate relationships? Yes
  51. Has your sexual behavior put you at risk for arrest for lewd conduct or public indecency? Yes
  52. Have you been paid for sex? Yes

  53. I believe there should be one last question, though:‎

  54. Did you take this test just so you could brag about what a sex addict you are?‎



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